the reunion

by - July 01, 2015

Regular readers will know I headed off on the weekend for a long-awaited reunion with my boyfriend after three agonisingly slow weeks apart.

I was, of course, really looking forward to seeing him and we had a beautiful couple of days together. But while we were enjoying the Queensland winter sun, a thought crossed my mind - I had built our meeting up so much in my mind, what if it hadn't gone as planned?

In long distance relationships, there's this thing called the 'reunion anticlimax' and it's a hell of a lot more common than you might think.

"When you get to see each other again, chances are both of you will have built up great expectations of how fantastic your reunion is going to be but the reality often doesn't match up to the fantasy," explains couples counsellor Trina Dolenz.

"Many couples feel disappointed and frustrated when things aren't as they'd hoped. You may also find that rather than making love all day there are awkward silences or even arguments.

"You can prevent this by making sure you've talked about how you want the reunion to be and recognising that the anticipation is often better than the consummation. And remember, it may take time to get used to being around each other again."

Thankfully we had none of those problems last weekend and spent our first full day back together riding our bikes on the Gold Coast (there's a whole separate blog post in that alone!), enjoying a couple of beers while watching dolphins off the coast and checking out a local food truck meet up. Perfect!

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