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It’s a position many young couples find themselves in when they start a family — suddenly the home they felt so comfortable in seems small, cramped and confined. But looking for a suitable home when you have young children isn’t exactly the easiest proposition.

For Emma Potter and husband Martyn the search for a new home to raise their two children in didn’t extend any further than the street where they were already living.

“We just felt as though we had outgrown the house we were living in,” says Emma. “But we couldn’t find anywhere that compared to it in terms of location and price.

“Then the house two doors down became available which was perfect in terms of location but the style of the home just wasn’t what I wanted. Everything was brown and olive green, the floors were tiled with orange sandstone with a slate look and there was a jarrah bar and jarrah doors and benches — all beautiful materials, but together they were dated and absorbed the limited light that could get in.”

While the list of negatives was long, there were also a number of pluses, the first being that the home sat on a 938sq m block. “We have active kids and we just wanted a bit of space for them to run around and have friends and neighbours over,” Emma says. “We also loved the idea of having a pool and all of this was possible in this home.”



Becoming frustrated by a lack of available properties, the couple decided to put an offer in on the house to “see what happened”. It was accepted and it was then that reality sunk in that the couple were about to embark on a major renovation that would see the 1970s Italian-style mansion transformed into a modern family home.

It’s all in the details

Deciding to completely renovate a home means months of hard work, budget watching and decision making. Not only did Emma and Martyn decide to live on site during the renovation (with two young children too), they also chose to take on a lot of the work themselves to save money.

“It was like being on a reality renovation show,” laughs Emma. “But we wanted to be in full control of the project and this seemed like the best way to ensure we had everything we wanted and didn’t pay too much.”

The couple engaged an architect to help with the floorplan but from there on in, they ran their own show, with Emma taking on all the interior design and Martyn tackling the role of project manager.

“We were both working and the kids were little — it was a crazy time,” she says. “Living in the house with it happening around us was the toughest part. But we are both hands-on people so we loved having full control over the project, and day-to-day input on the design and build.”

The renovation added an extra 64sq m to the original 206sq m home. A studio at the back of the site provides an additional 40sq m of living space, with two extra bedrooms and an extra bathroom.



The couple incorporated an ensuite and walk-in robe to the extended main bedroom and restructured the floorplan, almost entirely, to make way for a spacious and functional scullery, which gives the space a cafe feel.

Adding a bedroom and enclosing the front veranda to create a shared playroom was a stroke of genius for Emma and Martyn because not only does it give the kids their own private retreat it also connects their bedrooms and encourages inter-sibling play.



Designer finishes

When it came to the interior styling of her own home, Emma says she wanted something that would reflect their lives as a relaxed and active family.

“We wanted a warm and comfortable family home that was stylish and would stand the test of time,” she says. “That’s why we incorporated lots of raw materials like wood and recycled brick because all of these materials get better with age. Being in marketing and design, I love interesting features but they don’t always have to be expensive. The peg board in our laundry was bought from Bunnings. It’s one of the cheapest features in the home and is a favourite for its practicality and look.”


She also says she learned when to fight for a feature and when to let it go. “Some of the things I really didn’t want have ended up becoming my favourite things,” she says. “Like the brick pillar that protrudes into the lounge. It adds so much character and interest. My advice for other future renovators — don’t get too caught up on perfection, as it doesn’t change how you feel in the space. And you don’t need to spend a lot of money often. My favourite features are certainly not the most expensive ones.”




First published in Home, The Daily Telegraph 6 June 2015
Pictures: Heather Robbins, Red Images Photography


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There's a school of thought that says the bedroom should be a calming space decorated with soft pastel colours, plain linen and soft lighting.

But the girls from Kip & Co think your bed is an under-utilised piece of furniture that has the potential to become a design centrepiece in your home. A big call, no doubt, but bold statements are an integral part of the brand created by sisters Kate Heppell and Hayley Pannekoecke and their mate Alex van der Sluys.


From vivid colour and eye-catching patterns to touch-me textures such as plush velvet and textured shag pile, the Kip & Co look is anything but understated.

“When we started out there was nothing around to make your bed a statement piece of fashion in your home,” says Alex. “We all love colour and pushing the envelope and although we’re not formally trained in design, we all have quite a creative streak and a very unique aesthetic.”

The trio had always wanted to go into business together and each had floated loads of ideas that would allow them to work together and flex their collective creative muscle.

“It was important that whatever we did together was something creative,” says Alex who also works in corporate communications. “We’re all quite busy and have lots going on in our lives so it was also important that whatever we chose was also flexible and could fit in around everything else we do.”

Their solution was to launch the business online which, since 2012 has grown from a range of just 40 products to 150 in the new AW15 collection including pyjamas, a completely new category for the brand.


And instead of fitting in emails, phone calls and design meetings in between other commitments, Alex has recently reduced her corporate working week to four days so she can devote an extra day to growing Kip & Co which now employs a casual staff of 10.

“In terms of collections, we work on a six-month cycle,” she explains. “We’ve just finalised our Spring/Summer collection so before too long I’m sure we’ll be thinking about next winter.”

In the meantime, buyers have the AW15 collection to keep them warm at night and Alex says this winter, it’s all about texture.

“Winter really lends itself to being more adventurous with fabrications,” she says. “This year we’ve expanded our velvet range and introduced cord bedding for the first time. There’s heaps of beautiful blankets and rugs in this collection too with details like big pompoms and long shag pile.”

First publish in Home, The Daily Telegraph 4 April 2015
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Today is a happy day - I'm flying north this afternoon for three nights with my boyfriend. Days like today make all those nights alone completely worth it.

Happy weekend everyone!

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I found this video on BuzzFeed today and I think it sums it up pretty well.... "When you really love someone, it makes it worth it."


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The professionals make it look so easy but designing a room from scratch can be a tough ask for us mere mortals. There’s so much to think about and, unlike fashion, once you’ve committed to a certain colour or style, a change of mind can be a very expensive and time consuming exercise.

Knowing where to start can be the biggest challenge — from paint colour to big furniture pieces to accessories, ensuring everything goes together can sometimes be a bit of gamble if you’re a novice decorator.



Identifying with a certain design style can make things easier but for those of us who are confused at the difference between coastal and Hamptons even that might present problems. But, experts say, finding your style can be as easy as following your heart when choosing colours and pieces for your space.

“I always encourage people to think about what really gets them going,” architect, designer and House Rules judge Joe Snell says. “What gets you excited? What gets you up in the morning? If you can keep those things in mind when you’re creating a space then I don’t think you can go wrong.

“If you’re just doing something because you saw it in a magazine or on a TV show and not because you really love it, then that will show. Television and magazines are great for finding inspiration but if you’re going to live with something, then you have to love it.”

Mood boards

They’re a tried and true method, and even professional designers will admit to creating mood boards to help them envisage a space before they do anything else.


Creating a clear vision of what you want upfront “is essential and is a great reference to go back to”, says product designer, developer and style hunter for Target, Lisa T. “A good storyboard will make it a lot easier to decide colours, finishes and the overall feel of the space. It helps keep you on track when there are so many decisions to be made.”

Sarah Stephenson, colour consultant for Valspar paints and tutor at International School of Colour and Design, says putting together a mood board can help draw out the colours that are important to you if you’re unsure what palette your room should have.

“Going through the process of creating a mood board can also confirm colours you don’t like,” she says. “Once you have something together, put it in a prominent place in the room and live with it for a few days to see if it really does work.”

If a physical mood board isn’t your thing, there are plenty of online resources to get those creative juices flowing. “Online spaces like Pinterest, Polyvore, Instagram, Tumblr are a great way to view and explore images and ideas,” Lisa says. “I’m a self-confessed junkie for all these platforms and dedicate a substantial amount of time researching and sharing images and ideas. I’m continuously blown away with the talent and creativity of people and the time they invest in sharing with other creatives.”

Choosing colour

One of the first things you’ll notice when you walk into any room is the use of colour. Is the space neutral with bright accents? Does it have a feature wall? Has the designer worked with a pastel palette?

It’s no surprise the choice of paint can really dictate the mood and feel of a room before you layer with furniture or accessories. “Pastels or light colours are considered feminine and airy, and can actually make a space look bigger,” Sarah says.



 She advises considering what the space will be used for when choosing colours for your walls and furnishings. “For example, for a children’s play area, you’d want dynamics so you’d go for contrasting brighter colours. For a bedroom, though, you want something more harmonious so softer colours with less contrast are best.”

But actually choosing your palette and knowing what colours you’re happy to live with is the first hurdle. “It sounds silly but don’t think about it too much,” Sarah says. “The easiest way is to start collecting images and pictures from magazines and books and even things like leaves in the garden or your favourite jumper. You’ll soon see the types of colours you’re attracted to.”

Personalise your style

No two rooms are ever going to be alike so personalising your space is an important part of decorating. Even if your style is textbook industrial, layering items that are important to you — no matter what their style — will give your room individuality.

“There are so many interpretations of different design styles so if you like something that might not necessarily fit in with the theme or look you have chosen, my advice is to just go for it,” says Joe.


And, Lisa says, don’t be afraid to go with your gut. “It’s all a process and it takes mistakes to figure out what works and what doesn’t,” she says. “Don’t be afraid to go off the beaten track, invest in the long term pieces and accent with more affordable accessories. Remember, nothing is permanent and you can always change it up. That’s what design is about; being brave and discovering what works for you.”

First published in Home, The Daily Telegraph 23 May 2015
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When I was single I was an every day exerciser. Running, walking, dancing, the gym and yoga were regular appointments in my diary. But you know how it is, you embark on a new relationship and suddenly nothing else matters.

Morning walks were replaced with going out for a quick breakfast before heading to the office and drinks and dinner took the place of those after-work gym sessions. Weekend yoga classes fell off my radar because I knew my new boyfriend's time in the same city as me was limited to a three-month work stint so we had to make the most of the time we had together.

I did go out for a morning walk on the odd occasion but as summer turned to autumn and, inevitably, winter, getting out of my warm bed to pound the pavement just wasn't as attractive an option as staying cosy under the covers.

But this week I've been dog-sitting the adorable Coco while my parents are off living it up on a four week trip to the UK so I've been forced off the couch and those morning walks are suddenly back on the agenda - and I have to say I feel so much better because of it.

It's not just the exercise either, going for a 30-40 minute walk allows me to clear my head before the day begins and gives me the opportunity to see with fresh eyes things that I may have been thinking about the night before when it comes to my impending move. Things always seem much more achievable in the morning!

Coco and I out for a walk around Lavender Bay on the weekend
But don't just take my word for it. Both physical and mental health experts say the morning is the best time to get active - a recent study suggests that you can burn up to 20 percent more body fat by exercising in the morning before your first meal while mental health experts agree that even if you wake up on the wrong side of the bed, a morning workout will boost your endorphins for extra smiles the rest of the day.

Here's five other reasons why this morning's walk (and tomorrow's and the next day's) will be the best thing I do for myself all day.

1. It's a brain boost

Exercise has been proven to increase mental focus for up to ten whole hours post-workout. If you’re squeezing in your exercise after work, you’re not taking full advantage of those ten hours but getting your sweat on in the morning means that both your brain and your body are in good shape all day.

2. You'll get a more consistent workout

Exercise can be hard to squeeze into our daily schedules and it's often the first casualty when things get busy (my experience is a case in point). By getting your workout in before the day begins, it's out of the way and you'll actually have a sense of achievement before your work day even starts. 

3. It will put you in a good mood, reduce stress and boost energy

 "With enough sleep you will have more energy at the beginning of the day than the end to put into your workout," certified fitness trainer Stacy Berman told Cosmopolitan. A morning walk is also a great way to beat stress. Like any other cardiovascular exercise, brisk walking boosts endorphins, which can reduce stress hormones and alleviate mild depression.

4. It can improve heart health

Walking is the easiest physical exercise you can do and studies show that walking daily for 30-45 minutes can help in preventing heart disease. It can also lower cholesterol levels which ultimately help in decreasing the risk of cardiovascular diseases. Why the morning? One of the ways that your body naturally wakes you up is by increasing levels of hormones like adrenaline, which causes your heart to beat faster squeezing out some extra cardiovascular benefits when you workout first thing.

5. It's better for weight loss

There is conflicting research about whether you should east before or after your morning workout. Nutritionist Damien Kelly suggests a pre-workout banana or piece of toast will allow you to have a better workout which leads to a better energy burn. If you choose to eat after exercise, don't wait too long. "Getting a meal in early before you sit down at your desk to start your day will jump-start your metabolism and keep your appetite under wraps to reduce your chance of overeating later on," dietitian and sports nutritionist Cristina Rivera told Cosmopolitan.

I caught this gorgeous sunrise on yesterday's morning adventure
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I've lived alone for close to eight years. That's almost a decade of coming and going as I please, eating when and whatever I want and basically looking out for my own needs before all others. Want to stay up bingeing on Orange Is The New Black while devouring a box of Cheezels instead of eating a proper dinner? No problem. Don't really feel like talking to anyone today? No sweat, you don't have to.

But the prospect of sharing a home with someone I love is now seriously on the table and while I can't wait to properly start our life together, it's obvious there will have to be some sacrifices when it comes to the way I've lived for the past eight years (although I know my boyfriend wouldn't begrudge me a night on the couch with my favourite TV show, in fact he'll probably provide the Cheezels!).

Actually, I wish there was a better word for it than 'sacrifice' which, in my mind, has a bit of a negative connotation like I'm giving something up that I really don't want to. In reality, I'm looking forward to moving in together and I know changing my lifestyle is part and parcel of the whole deal.

The fact is I now have another person to consider - actually I have three other people as my boyfriend's two children live with him 50 per cent of the time. I know we love each other deeply but I have my feet firmly planted on the ground and don't expect the initial stages of us living together to be a honeymoon. I know the first few weeks or months will be a huge change for both of us - in fact for all four of us.

Add to that we will be getting used to life after long distance and there's a whole lot of adjusting to be done - and according to the experts, that's perfectly fine as long as we all give each other the time and space we need for that adjustment to happen.

"People fantasise about how wonderful it will be when they are together [after a long distance relationship]," says Laura Stafford, PhD., a communications and relationships professor at Ohio State University. "People don't think about having to readjust their lives, their schedules, or their living space."

She says it's important to be especially forgiving of your partner's moods or annoyances during this time.

"At the beginning, you might find yourself longing for your old freedom or the romantic dates that you went on when you were living apart," she says. "Remind yourself of all the good things that come with living with your loved one and keep in mind that after some time together, you will learn to synchronise and complement each other."

Clinical psychologist Randi Gunther says the deepest question asked when a couple commits to sharing a space is "How do I balance my personal choices with caring for my partner’s needs?".

"There is a freedom in being single that many are loathe to lose," she writes on the website Psychology Today. "They like deciding what they want to eat, where they want to go, who they want to spend time with, even which side of the bed they want to sleep on."

But, she says, there is also a "beautiful scenario when people joyfully commit to a long-term relationship". "Sharing experiences over time, creating a secret language that is only their own, learning each other’s secrets and preferences, and knowing they share an emotional home are magical experiences in beloved partnerships," she says.



While I'm not "loathe to lose" - as Randi says - those freedoms that go along with being single (in fact I love the idea of a "we" instead of an "I"), I am conscious there may be times when I crave my own space. Again, perfectly normal and in fact quite healthy, according to the experts

Nikki Ho-Shing from dating website How About We says adjusting to life together after being in a long distance relationship involves both partners being very mindful of personal space

"This sounds like the antithesis of everything you think and feel but remember this, though: you’ve both gotten pretty comfortable living separate lives," she says.

"While it’s great that physically your lives are now joined, you still probably aren’t used to having someone in your space at their will. Even if you don’t live together, you risk smothering the other person by making yourself at home too fast and too soon. Yes, you’re both madly, deeply in love and isn’t it so cute that your love leaves a mug out for your morning coffee? Except, no, because that’s not your favourite mug and you like your coffee iced. Even though you have presumably spent a good deal of time in each other’s spaces, be respectful of boundaries, don’t assume too much, and keep communication open."
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The ramshackle Aussie surf shack is an icon of beachside living but, in reality, not many of us want to live with sand-covered floors or squeezed in between surfboards. Instead, a sophisticated new style of coastal living is inspiring Aussies to embrace beachside charm and, according to stylist Tim Neve, it can be translated to suit most decorating styles.

In his book Sandcastles: Interiors Inspired By The Coast, Tim has identified five beach-inspired design styles — from the whitewashed finish of a style he calls Beachcomber to Islander, a leafy, woody scheme inspired by a tropical island and the nautical styling of Seafarer.


“Beachcomber is a favourite of mine as it actually works as a base palette for the rest of the looks,” says Tim. “In terms of colour, it’s full of sandy neutrals inspired by the beach itself and once you get this right you can build upon it with the other styles.”

Tim says the styles in the book are inspired by different beach locales around Australia. “I took inspiration from the balmy tropics of north Queensland, to the serene fishing villages of Tasmania and everything in between,” he says.


Why do you think coastal style is so popular in Australia?
Actually, what has surprised me is that “country style” has been more popular in Australia over  the past decade or so. It’s only in very recent years that we have gravitated back towards coastal style with fresh eyes. I guess it involved shaking off that 1980s Australiana version of it, and trying it in a new way. It makes more sense than country style given most of us live on or nearer to the coastline itself. Now, it’s more of a relaxed, organic approach that has lead the way.

How can someone incorporate a coastal look in their home without it looking like a surf shack?
That’s something I really struggled with when I started my own coastal decorating journey. The last thing I wanted is table lamps with sea shells hot glued to them. I guess the most important thing is to bring it back to the core inspiration — the coast itself. When you’re inspired by the real thing that can only feel authentic. That is, I didn’t want to rely on dated, mass-produced nautical wares to get an authentic look. In saying that, you can also have fun with kitsch — in a couple of chapters of the book I embraced some otherwise daggy objects like lawn flamingoes and pirate flags to create fresh looks. It’s important not to take it all too seriously.


What do you think is the number one mistake people make when decorating their homes?
I think the most exciting part of the process — imagining and designing a home — is way too insular. We all pick up a magazine and point to a picture saying “that's the room or house I want” without necessarily considering the important factor of functionality, or scale of your own space. I guess if you can live in your own space first and see how it works, and then take inspiration from what is truly important to you personally you’ll end up with a much more honest interior.

Does interior decorating always mean a complete job or are there quick solutions that can have a big impact?
My mantra is definitely redecorate over renovate. I’m always one for a quick weekend DIY that can make a major change to your living environment. If you’ve been thinking about changing that wall colour, just pick up the paint brush and do it. There’s other non-messy jobs that can make a huge difference too: a quick re-arrange of the furniture or what’s on your walls will jolt you out of your comfort zone and perhaps inspire further decorating ideas too.


What inspires you?
I’d have to say the sea itself. I swim in the Newcastle Ocean Baths daily, and it’s my constant reminder of the freshness I aim for in my own styling. Depending on the time of day I visit, it’s also a virtual colour palette to draw from — warm colours over the horizon at sunset, or even the stormy hues on an overcast day never fail to inspire.

Where’s your favourite place to look for unique pieces for your home?
In Sydney I love Seasonal Concepts in Redfern. Ken has an amazing eye for the unique, as well as Doug Up on Bourke — I could easily spend a whole weekend exploring in their huge space of wares. In my hometown of Newcastle I have my own shopfront in a great little vintage district in Islington. Some of my neighbours include Auld & Grey, who specialise in the kind of rustic, one-of-a-kind things that really get my blood pumping. Plus, Crab Apple Vintage who are a pleasure to hire from for events and photo shoots are great too.


Sandcastles: Interiors Inspired By The Coast by Tim Neve (Murdoch Books) $49.99

First published Home, Daily Telegraph 21 March 2015.
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Let's face it... who doesn't love Reese Witherspoon? She oozes girl-next-door charm and her Instagram has proven she's quite the domestic goddess.

Now the Oscar-winning actress has turned her hand to homewares with the launch of her lifestyle brand Draper James. The best bit? The brand has partnered with International Checkout to fulfill orders worldwide. That's right - they ship to Australia!

The website is named after Reese's grandparents, Dorothea Draper and William James Witherspoon.

"My grandparents taught me everything I know about gracious Southern living," she writes on the website. "From them I learned to dress and act like a lady, to take pride in my home, to reach out to help a neighbour, and to always invite everyone in for a visit."

Magnolia Paperweight, $US98, draperjames.com

The homewares collection has a distinctly Southern feel with monogrammed cushions and throws along with linen cocktail napkins and gorgeous paperweights. Mint Julep cups and silver frames round out the decor collection but for fans of this style, there's also a fashion line which will have you looking like an extra from Hart of Dixie.

But beware, looking and living like a Southern Belle doesn't come cheap. A sterling silver magnolia bowl will set you back $US400 while a monogrammed cushion costs $US175.

It's wedding season, so here's something blue! Full story in our newsletter; sign up at the bottom of draperjames.com! (Link in profile.) #giftideas
A photo posted by Draper James (@draperjamesgirl) on Jun 16, 2015 at 12:27pm PDT



Behind-the-scenes from when @reesewitherspoon and the @draperjamesgirl team first started to pick out fabrics for #DraperJames. The process of bringing this fashion label to life has been so inspiring. Amazing how far it's come! #patternsandprints
A photo posted by Draper James (@draperjamesgirl) on May 4, 2015 at 11:47am PDT
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Moving is one of life's most stressful events. Luckily, I've only had to do it a handful of times in my life and, as I've been in my current place for about seven years, I haven't had to think about it for a while.

But the stress-inducing thought of packing up absolutely everything I own is suddenly back on the radar and every time I look at my full-to-bursting kitchen cupboards my breath shortens and my heart seems to beat a little faster. I am NOT looking forward to packing it all up!

Before I even start the eternal search for packing boxes though, some serious decluttering is in order.



For those who, like me, freeze at the thought of getting rid of some of your stuff, here are some great ways to get started.

Give away one item each day

Colleen Madsen at 365 Less Things gives away one item each day. Over the past several years, she has experienced quite a transformation simply reducing her stuff one day at a time. If you're on a timeline (like I am) try giving away two or three things at a time to family and friend you know will appreciate them.

Try the closet hanger experiment

This definitely isn;t a new idea but definitely one that I'm going to try. To work out which wardrobe pieces to clear out, hang all your clothes with the hangers in the reverse direction. After you wear an item, return it to the closet with the hanger facing the correct direction. After six months, you’ll have a clear picture of which clothes you can easily discard. This experiment could also be applied to a number of clutter areas in your home (cleaners, toys, linens, tools, hobbies and craft items).

Dream closet space!

Space it out

Uber organised Katrina from super helpful website The Organised Housewife says don’t overwhelm yourself by taking a full afternoon or day dedicated to decluttering. "Thirty minutes a day is all it takes to make a start on decluttering," she says. "Dedicate some time each day purely to decluttering one particular area.  Write down this day and time and stick to it, do not procrastinate."

Take the 12-12-12 challenge

The brainchild of Joshua Becker from Becoming Minimalist involves finding 12 items to throw away, 12 items to donate, and 12 items to be returned to their proper home. He says it's a quick way to organise 36 things in your house. Do it every week to really reduce clutter.

Concentrate on one area at a time

"Start small, try starting with a drawer, wardrobe or a small room like pantry or laundry," says Organised Housewife extraordinaire Katrina.  "But don’t choose the most cluttered room, this would be too overwhelming. Divide your clutter amongst the labeled boxes, when each one is full transfer to a garbage bag.  Place rubbish directly into the bin.  Place charity bags in the garage ready for a trip to the charity store/bin." And don't start on the next area until you've finished.
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As much as I can't wait to start a new life with my boyfriend north of the border, sometimes the whole thing just seems so overwhelming.

Not only will we be officially moving in together for the first time but I'll also be dealing with a whole new city, new state and a new job. My friends and family will be back here and I'll be up there - just a phone call away but definitely not just down the road for a quick coffee and catch up when I need it.

The logistics of the move also seem a bit much for me to get my head around at times. Which furniture should I move? What should I sell? How much should I keep in storage?

I've been told that feeling overwhelmed is completely normal in my situation but in reality that doesn't make things feel any easier. So I've done the research and found a definite consensus among the experts about coping strategies that might be helpful for anyone feeling that mountain might be a little too high to climb.


1. Accept it

Worrying about how you feel or trying to sweep your feelings under the carpet certainly isn't going to help. By acknowledging how you're responding to a certain situation, you're accepting that what you're feeling is OK. “It’s normal to experience some degree of anxiety when stressors are unfamiliar, unpredictable, or imminent,” says psychologist Marla Deibler. "Think of it as as riding out a wave".

2. Change your thoughts

Easier said than done, right? Maybe not. Psychologist Kevin Chapman told the website PsychCentral: "It’s the unrealistic or unreasonable thoughts that spark our stressed-out reaction. That’s why it’s important to pay attention to what we tell ourselves and learn to create helpful thoughts." Big to-do list at work? Instead of stressing about how you're never going to get it all done, tell yourself: "I might not get through this list today but let's take four tasks from my list and make sure they're finished by the end of the day". By breaking the big picture into smaller parts, what you need to achieve seems far more do-able.

3. Focus on right now

Constantly worrying about what may or may not happen in the future won't change anything. One thing it will do though is take away the present moment. I recently remarked to a friend that I wished the next six months were over and I could fast forward to a time when I'd be settled in a new home with my boyfriend. Her response? "But think of all the amazing stuff that might happen on the journey". Wise words.


4. Take a deep breath

"Deep breathing encourages our body’s relaxation response," says Deibler. Try this simple exercise to reduce stress:
  • To start, inhale for a count of four, then exhale for a count of four — all through the nose, which adds a natural resistance to the breath.
  • Aim for six to eight counts per breath with the same goal in mind: calm the nervous system, increase focus and reduce stress. 

5. Get active

Getting out of the space you're in — whether it's home or the office —can do wonders and help you clear your head and collect your thoughts. Even a walk around the block is sometimes enough to make things seem more manageable. Listening to music or reading a book can have the same effect if you're feeling less active. Use this time to let your mind consider what is really causing your feelings of being overwhelmed and how they might be addressed.
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One of my home dreams is my own office/writing studio in the backyard. Plenty of productive desk space is a must but I also fantasise about a big comfy couch or armchair where I can enjoy my morning coffee, mull over a magazine or two and plan my day.


I know this space might not be possible in our first home but hopefully it's not too far away. In the meantime here's some inspo for your own home office.


Follow Chelsea Clark's board home: office on Pinterest.
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A few months back I wrote about moving in together for The Daily Telegraph's Home magazine. Given my current situation, I think the advice is especially apt!

Whether it’s a partner, flatmate, friend or sibling, deciding to share your space with someone is a big upheaval. Far from just having the same address and splitting the electricity bill, living with another person requires a lot of pre-planning, open communication from all parties and a willingness to compromise on everything from the artwork on display in the lounge room to whose turn it is to clean the bathroom.

Finances, the division of household chores and negotiating interior design are some of  the main issues you might face when moving in with someone but there are also a host of other things you need to consider when you decide to make the big move.

Image: Norsu Interiors

Commit to communicate

Ask any relationship expert and they’ll tell you the key to any successful partnership is clear and open communication. And we’re not just talking about romantic relationships.

“Being able to talk openly and honestly is one of the most important things in any relationship,” says counsellor and relationship expert Celina Gregory. “Take the time to sit down together and clearly go through the things you want and expect from the arrangement.”

For example, Celina says, in a romantic relationship ensure you are both clear about what moving in together really means. Is it a path to marriage or are you just testing the waters to see if you’re a good match?

“Often it’s simply not being on the same page that causes most arguments,” she says. “It sounds simple but often people in long-term relationships who are moving in together for the first time skip this because they think they know the other person so well already. It could go along the lines of ‘to save us arguing later, why don’t we agree’ for example.”

Establishing ground rules before giving up your precious couch space to another person is also important in non-romantic living arrangements too.

Enid Steiner from flatmate-finder website flatwithme.com.au says being upfront about how you’ll deal with finances is especially important before moving in.

“You will need to decide how and when the rent will be collected as well as how much money needs to be put aside for common household items like dishwashing detergent or light bulbs,” she says. “Another important one is if flatmates need to check with each other before having friends over or entertaining. Flatmates with different social habits often have different ideas about entertaining, so having some guidelines may come in handy.”

Yours, mine and ours

Sure you might love that frilly pink cushion nana gave you for you for your 11th birthday but when you welcome someone else into your home — or move into theirs — be prepared to make some compromises when it comes to interior decoration.

In a romantic relationship trying to force your partner into getting rid of their favourite knick-knack could cause resentment or an unnecessary argument and if you’re living with friends or flatmates, you need to make allowances for the fact that everyone likes to be surrounded by their own possessions.

“It’s important that you are respectful of your housemates’ belongings no matter what you might think of them,” Celina says. “It would be unusual if you and your partner or flatmate both agreed on every design decision so it all really comes down to communication and compromise.”

If you absolutely can’t live with your partner’s favourite armchair, suggest having it reupholstered or refinished and tell your partner you are willing to compromise on something important to you in return.

Image: Freedom

Practical magic

Once you’ve established everyone is on the same page, and you and your housemates or significant other have set up some house rules, the practicalities of joining households becomes a reality.

If you are moving into a new place, take the time to plan each room with your partner or flatmate. If you are moving into a place where one of you already lives, chances are the house will already be furnished. Don’t expect to move all of your furniture in and, likewise, don’t think just because you are moving in to someone else’s home that you can’t take anything of your own.

Think about which pieces of furniture you already own that could work in each space and approach your housemate about including them in the room. When moving in with a partner, don’t be tempted to double up on furniture, appliances, linen, cutlery or anything else. Sell duplicates and put the money towards household bills or a romantic dinner. Wardrobe space could also be a problem for couples. Try to divide it as evenly as you possibly can.

First published The Daily Telegraph Home, 14 February 2015
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One of the many positives about moving interstate in the next few months is the thought of getting to decorate our new home together.

My eyes are firmly planted on the new Mark Tuckey x Cotton On range which launches online next month. The collection features pieces for the living areas, bedroom, bathroom and kitchen and everything is made using quality materials such as cotton, linen and ash timber with prices starting from $14.95 for a twin mug set to $189.95 for a king duvet set.








I chatted with Louella Tuckey about the launch of the range.

What prompted the collaboration?
It was something that came out of the blue really. Cotton On first approached us with the view of us looking after their store fitouts and the conversation kind of progressed from there - we mentioned that we used to have a homewares store in addition to the furniture store and it turns out Cotton On have been looking to enter the homewares market for a little while. The timing was perfect.

Who is your target market?
We were very much aware of the existing Cotton On customer when we created this range. It’s a younger market than has traditionally been exposed to our brand which is really exciting for us, but having said that I really think the products in the range will appeal to a very broad market - everyone from teenagers wanting to decorate their bedroom to older couples looking for quality, affordable pieces.

You've never done a collaboration like this before - is it going to be on on-going relationship?
Yes, it's definitely not a one-off thing, we’re already looking at pieces to add to the collection when the new range drops in October. This is a long-term partnership and we’re thrilled with how the collection has come together.

How many pieces are in the collection?
There's about 35 different pieces but when you look at different colours for each piece etc., it extends to about 80 individual products.

Often with designer collaborations, the designer is simply putting their name to a product. How much input do you and Mark have into the final look and feel of each product?
The bottom line is that Mark and I wouldn’t be putting our names to something that we weren’t 100 per cent proud of and there’s not one part of this collection that we haven’t personally signed off on. We were very upfront from the very start of the partnership that we were only interested in ethically sourced and produced goods. The team at Cotton On were great and very happy to talk about their ethical background. I went on a buying trip with them to India to meet suppliers which turned out to be a very inspiring trip.

Mark Tuckey x Cotton On launches online on July 3 and in select stores nationwide on July 8. 

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This is the first time I've been in a long distance relationship and, as I may have already alluded to, it's tough! I miss my boyfriend terribly but I know, compared to some couples, we have it quite good seeing each other every couple of weeks or so. But still, it's not enough!

I thought the longer we were in a long distance relationship, the easier it would become but every time I see him it gets harder and harder to say goodbye. But I get through it by being positive, looking forward to the next time I'll see him and reminding myself there are some definite benefits to long distance love.


1. Absence really does make the heart grow fonder

The time we spend apart makes the time we're together that much more special. A study published in the Journal of Communication a couple of years ago found couples in long distance relationships were more likely to share meaningful thoughts and feelings than those who were not.

2. Commitment

I know for our relationship to work (and it does) my boyfriend has to be just as committed as I am. I've read so many articles saying jealousy and the fear of infidelity are the main enemies of the long distance relationship but these are honestly non-issues in our relationship because I know the effort we're both putting in just wouldn't be worth jeopardising for either of us.

3. Days off

You know those days when you just can't be bothered doing your hair/makeup/getting dressed/getting out of bed? A long distance relationship means no one can judge you for just not feeling it some days - the love of your life is thousands of kilometres away after all.

4. You learn to communicate more effectively

My boyfriend and I speak every day - sometimes several times per day. I keep him updated on my life and he keeps me updated on his. We have "real" conversations about real issues - far more than a lot of couples I know. And because we know our communication time is limited, we don't waste it on silly or trivial arguments... there's just not time! Dr. Crystal Jiang from the City University in Hong Kong told The Huffington Post recently: "Long-distance couples try harder than geographically close couples in communicating affection and intimacy, and their efforts do pay back."

5. Independence

Living separately means we're both still living independent lives, still hanging out with our friends, still seeing family regularly and enjoying time on our own. There is absolutely no danger of us "losing ourselves" in the relationship or living vicariously through the other person.


6. Travel

My frequent flyer account has never been healthier! Not only that but when my boyfriend recently returned home after spending some time in Sydney, we decided to drive north rather than fly so I saw parts of the coastline that I had never seen before. On top of all that I'm also currently getting to know a new city from the perspective of a local.

7. Romance = blooming

Who doesn't love a romantic gesture every now and then? We recently celebrated six months together and I received six gorgeous red roses at work complete with a teddy bear so I had something to cuddle that night. I'm sure had we been in the same city he would have done something equally sweet but the girls at the office just wouldn't have been as impressed!

8. It's not just physical

Some would say, at just six months, our relationship is still in the "honeymoon phase". But while others who have been together for a similar period might be questioning what their relationship is all about, I know for sure that mine is built on a solid base of mutual respect and love. The long distance thing means we were forced to seriously evaluate our relationship a lot sooner than we might have ordinarily done so we both knew exactly where we stood early on.

9. It forces you to be positive

I am naturally quite a positive person but, of course, I have some down days. I learnt very early on though that sitting around pining for my boyfriend or crying into my cereal just isn't going to make the time pass quicker, nor will it bring us closer together. If anything, it just makes me miserable and then even more miserable because there's no one here to hug me and tell me it's all going to be OK. Focusing on the positive aspects of a long distance relationship (like writing this post) helps.

10. That moment when you see each other again after a long (or not so long!) period of separation

Enough said!

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So right now I'm experiencing some pretty serious change in my life. I'm in a relationship with an amazing man whom I love very much but the catch is he lives 917km away (to be exact!).

The big move north is on the cards for me in the next few months and, to tell you the truth, it can't happen quickly enough. I'm not the best with the process of change (who is?) and long distance relationships are hard. Not hard work so much as just plain hard. Being away from the person you love sucks - not very poetic but that's the only way I can think to describe it. We try to see each other every few weeks but saying goodbye is always difficult.

As a girl who thought I'd live in my hometown forever (that Harbour!) and as someone who writes about houses and interiors professionally, my impending move has me thinking about the concept of home.

Part of me knows I will always call Sydney home. It's where my friends and family are, where my memories of growing up are and where my job and my cute little Harbourside apartment are. But when the person you love lives somewhere else, that place also begins to feel like home... and I guess it soon will be.



This is just one of the things that has prompted me to start this blog. Once I head north, the plan is to buy a house of our own and start renovating so I hope this blog might also help us document the whole experience. Exciting times!

In the meantime though I'm planning to devote my energies to writing here about relationships, love and home - both the concept and, of course, all the pretty stuff you can put in it.

Enjoy! xx


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